Out.

Something happened about two days ago that got me thinking.  Thinking about how even though most people claim to not have a problem with being gay or gay persons in general, it's not about being accepted by society.  It's more about being accepting of yourself.

People need to realize that coming out is a personal and private issue.  You shouldn't out someone just because you suspect that they are gay.  They need to be able to do it on their own terms. Without feeling pressured by others just because it is becoming more accepted by society.

We don't know what any given individual is going through. We don't know what personal demons they are facing. So my advice is don't out someone, just because you think it's time for them to come out.  All in good time. 

Hiding Out

Today I was having a conversation with a classmate, when she suddenly asked me if I was gay.  I told her yes, and she seemed surprised. Which in turn surprised me.  I didn't think it was a big deal. Then another classmate joined the conversation and also seemed surprised.

She said that she had no idea and never would have known.  Then she said something that struck a cord with me.  She said that I was good at, "hiding it."  I asked her, hiding what, and she said, "being gay."  That's when I told her that I wasn't hiding it. 

I am proud of who and what I am. I've never thought of myself as hiding the fact that I am gay. But, apparently people seem to think that I do hide.  Mainly because I don't conform to what the typical stereotypes people have come to expect of gay men. 

My classemates even told me that I am not like all the other gay men around. Which, is true.  I'm not like most gay guys. 

Ross the Intern

I went out this weekend to the local gay club, and it was okay.  I mean, nothing really exciting happened. Only the usual odd encounter or two. 

Strange things always happen to me.  I've had people randomly punch me, pour thier drinks on me and even had a bar tender throw a straw at me. Nothing that exciting happend this Friday, but non the less it odd. 

This total stranger started talking to me and keep insisting that I looked like some one he knew.  Well, turns out that he thought that I looked like Ross the Intern from the Jay Leno Show.  Oh my God, I nearly died.  Have you all seen him.  He's a gay intern on the show who is representative of everything I dislike about gay guys.  

Over all the experience was funny, and I was amused for awhile.  I suppose I shouldn't complain.  I got a free drink out of it. Haha.

What a drag

So, I have to say that I really don't like drag queens or drama queens.  They really bother me.  I don't know why but they do.  I've noticed it more lately when I've been out.  I see them and I just get annoyed by them.  They don't even sing thier own music when they perform. 

That's another thing that I don't understand.  They don't like it when they are called, "drag queens."  Well, at least the ones here in the Valley.  In fact I've had a whole discussion with some one about that.  This one person that I know apparently made it very clear to me that they are female inpersanators.  Not drag queens. 

I asked what the difference is.  Apparently a drag queen does sing her own music, and a female impersonator does not.  I really don't see the difference.  They both dress up and perform. I just don't get it. Oh well.

Apparently real drag queens are found up North. Figures. 

careful what you say.

Well, I actually have quite a bit to talk about, but I don't know where to start.  Over the past few days I've had several moments where, the topic of being gay has been brought up or referred to.  I have even had professors make jokes or wise cracks about being gay.

I don’t think that they realize that I am gay, because they genuinely make remarks or jokes with the intention of not offending anyone.  I’m not saying that I have been offended, but someone else might be.  For all I know I may not be the only gay student in class.

Then there was a conversation that occurred while I was helping with The Comm Council.  Some one mentioned that it was illegal in Texas to committee sodomy.  Well in that case there are a lot of criminals at the gay clubs here in the valley. Again I don’t think that it was said with malicious intent, but people need to be more careful.  Not everyone is as tolerant as me.

I just think that it all goes back to the stereotype that people have about being gay.  Since I don’t fit into most of those categories; people make remarks thinking that no one will take them to heart. All I am saying is that people need to be more conscious of what they say.  I don’t think that these people actually mean any harm, but on some level they still apply these stereotypes in everyday life, even if they don’t realize it.